About

I’m a relationships coach for self-aware women who are ready to break old dating and relationship patterns and create the loving, happy, committed partnership they long for. They’ve been single and feeling stuck for a long time and don’t know how to change it. I help them uncover their blind spots, understand and break their patterns, make powerful inner shifts and take empowered action so they can finally find their match.

For more than 20 years, I’ve supported people to create happy, healthy relationships in their lives – with family, friends, colleagues, partners – starting with their relationship with themselves.

And over the years I’ve experienced many of the relationship challenges my clients faced, and healed a lot of dysfunctional patterns that I once believed would never change.

But there was one huge painful challenge that seemed to go on forever with no end in sight – and I lived with it for most of my 20’s, throughout all of my 30’s and into my early 40’s: I was chronically single, whilst wanting more than anything else in the world to be in a loving, secure, committed relationship.

I had a handful of relationships that lasted a few months, with the same painful patterns repeating. Being attracted to unavailable men. Men who didn’t want to commit to a relationship (who soon after did commit to another woman). Men being scared and intimidated by me. Getting attached to men who showed huge interest at first but later became avoidant – all whilst not being attracted to the men who liked me and were available.

It was an exhausting cycle – meeting someone I liked, investing my time and emotional energy – and over and over again facing deep disappointment that left me feeling hopeless.

I was happy in many ways, I had deep friendships, fulfilling work and a creative life – but I felt deep loneliness and sadness as year after year I watched friends getting into relationships, move in together and get married, whilst I stayed single.

I often wondered “What’s wrong with me?”, until after an earth-shattering heartbreak, I started asking “Why is this happening?” and committed to understanding why – and to learn whatever I needed to learn to finally end my ongoing heartbreak and fulfil my dream of being in a loving, committed relationship.

My commitment started with the best training and support I could find.

I dove courageously into facing and understanding my inner obstacles and patterns in Jan Day’s 18-month Living Tantra Training, and I came to deeply understand many different parts of myself in the Voice Dialogue Facilitator Training and personal sessions I took over four years (with Trilby Fairfax, Peter Dellensen and team).

And with ongoing openness to learning, deepening self-awareness, and prioritising the relationship I really wanted, I underwent deep personal transformation that led to the start of a beautiful relationship with a kind, loving, fully available man, who became my beloved husband at the age of 47.

Since then, I’ve continued deepening this work through further training, including A Year of Polyvagal Theory with Deb Dana and Irene Lyon’s powerful programme for nervous system health, Smart Body Smart Mind.

Now that I’m years into a deeply happy, secure, committed relationship that really is better than I ever dreamed it could be, I’m hugely passionate about supporting women who are feeling stuck to find their dream committed match – so I created the transformational 1-1 coaching programme From Alone To Committed Love to do just that. Click here to find out more about it.