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How to Trust Yourself When Dating Feels Risky (3 min read)
A few months ago, a client told me “I just don’t trust myself to start dating again” - something I’ve heard a lot of women say over the years, my past self included.Sally* is a beautiful, smart, self-aware and successful woman in her mid-fifties, who’s been single for...
What Can Come From Heartbreak? (3 min read)
This is the paper mâché heart a dear friend made me after the biggest heartbreak of my life. I give that heartbreak a lot of credit for the beautiful committed relationship I’m in now. Or to be more accurate, the way I responded to it.In my late 30’s, after many years...
5 Ways Your Nervous System Can Shape How You Date (5 min read)
It was the first time I’d heard anyone talk about the nervous system in relation to dating when my relationships coach told me that mine was getting in the way of me finding a stable, loving partner - and it made a lot of sense.Because when I looked at my patterns, I...
What’s Self-Love Got To Do With It? My Wedding at Age 47
I just got married to someone wonderful, who's consistently available, loving and deeply kind (and quite a bit taller than me as you can tell by my feet!), which still feels like something of a miracle to me - because I can honestly say that there were many times when...
Saying Yes to a Love Relationship? Part 3 of 3
Part 1 of this blog series looked at how essential it is to have healthy personal boundaries to meet a suitable partner for a romantic relationship. Part 2 explored why we need a healthy Yes and No as we begin to connect with someone more deeply and move into the...
Saying Yes to a Love Relationship? Part 2 of 3
Part 1 of this blog series looked at how essential it is to have healthy personal boundaries when you are open to meeting a suitable partner for a love relationship. What we say “Yes” to and what we say “No” to in life does, after all, shape our experience. This part...
Saying YES to a Love Relationship? Part 1 of 3
Let’s start with NO. Saying NO to something you don’t want can be a way of saying YES to yourself, and what you DO want. For example, saying No to going out for dinner because you’d rather stay at home and read a book means you are free to do just that, stay at home...
The Heart of Vulnerability
What do you think of when you hear the word vulnerability? In the past, I would have thought of it as weakness; and definitely something I should try hard to avoid. These days I am much more inclined to see my natural human vulnerability as a beautiful aspect of who I...