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How to Trust Yourself When Dating Feels Risky (3 min read)
A few months ago, a client told me “I just don’t trust myself to start dating again” - something I’ve heard a lot of women say over the years, my past self included.Sally* is a beautiful, smart, self-aware and successful woman in her mid-fifties, who’s been single for...
What Can Come From Heartbreak? (3 min read)
This is the paper mâché heart a dear friend made me after the biggest heartbreak of my life. I give that heartbreak a lot of credit for the beautiful committed relationship I’m in now. Or to be more accurate, the way I responded to it.In my late 30’s, after many years...
5 Ways Your Nervous System Can Shape How You Date (5 min read)
It was the first time I’d heard anyone talk about the nervous system in relation to dating when my relationships coach told me that mine was getting in the way of me finding a stable, loving partner - and it made a lot of sense.Because when I looked at my patterns, I...
What’s Self-Love Got To Do With It? My Wedding at Age 47
I just got married to someone wonderful, who's consistently available, loving and deeply kind (and quite a bit taller than me as you can tell by my feet!), which still feels like something of a miracle to me - because I can honestly say that there were many times when...
Healthy Boundaries in Long-Term Relationship
The first blog in this series - Healthy Boundaries in Dating - looks at why healthy personal boundaries are essential for meeting a suitable partner. The second blog - Healthy Boundaries in Early Relationship - explores why we need a healthy Yes and No as we begin to...
Healthy Boundaries in Early Relationship
The first blog in this series - Healthy Boundaries in Dating - looks at how essential boundaries are when you're open to meeting a suitable partner. What we say “Yes” to and what we say “No” to in life does, after all, shape our experience. This blog explores why you...
Healthy Boundaries in Dating
This is the first in a three-part series about healthy boundaries at different stages of dating and romantic relationship. Let’s start with NO. Saying NO to something you don’t want can be a way of saying YES to yourself, and what you DO want.For example, saying No to...
The Heart of Vulnerability
What do you think of when you hear the word vulnerability? In the past, I would have thought of it as weakness; and definitely something I should try hard to avoid. These days I am much more inclined to see my natural human vulnerability as a beautiful aspect of who I...