The Dating Pattern Breakthrough for Smart Self-Aware Women
Become the Chooser of Committed Love
Interrupt your most difficult dating pattern and have your own back in real dating situations – so you can stop going in circles and start moving towards the loving, secure relationship you want.
You’re a smart, self-aware woman who already understands her patterns, but you still find them repeating.
You can see what’s happening intellectually, but when you’re actually connecting with someone, you lose clarity, get pulled off track, and end up in the same pattern again.
This can show up as:
• Getting pulled towards emotionally unavailable or inconsistent people
• Overthinking early dating and second-guessing your instincts
• Feeling anxious, activated, frozen, or unable to be your authentic self when you like someone
• Holding back completely because it doesn’t feel safe to trust your judgement
• Or any repeating pattern that keeps you stuck
Sound Familiar?
When we’re stuck in repeating patterns, part of us is running on autopilot.
The Dating Pattern Breakthrough helps you identify your blind spots, understand the automatic responses that keep the pattern going, and access greater choice in how you respond.
Instead of being pulled into the same familiar cycle, you’ll be better able to recognise what’s happening and make conscious, intentional choices that move you towards the committed relationship you want.
This is not general dating advice, and it’s not a reflective coaching conversation – we work directly with the pattern as it currently runs in your experience.
How it works
Before our 90-minute session, you’ll receive the Dating Pattern Reflection Sheet to help you reflect on the patterns you’ve been experiencing.
In the session, we’ll zoom in on the pattern that’s causing you the most difficulty right now and explore how it actually plays out in real time. Together, we’ll identify where you start to lose clarity and how you move away from yourself and your own best judgement without realising it.
Using a Voice Dialogue approach, I’ll support you to identify the different parts of you involved in the pattern, so that you can deepen your awareness of what’s driving it.
You’ll identify what you want to do differently when the pattern shows up again, and connect with a part of yourself that can help you have your own back and make different choices.
You’ll leave with clarity on how you want to respond in the moment when you notice the pattern starting to play out, and practical ways to access the inner support that’ll help you.
What would it be worth to you to stop the same dating pattern repeating and start relating in a way that leads you toward the kind of secure, loving relationship you long for?
I’m a relationships coach with over 20 years’ experience supporting people to create happy, healthy relationships.
My work has been developed through my own experience of living through and transforming painful, repeating dating and relationship patterns.
That process led to a deep personal shift and the start of a loving, secure, committed relationship with a kind, emotionally available man who became my husband at the age of 47.
What people say about working with me
“I have found this work incredible for accessing the wisdom of the wider aspects within me that I did not realise where there. How incredibly empowering to meet a whole inner counsel that I can now call upon myself. Nicola holds a tender explorative space with great care, presence and expertise.”
RS, 50, England
“I’ve been single a lot of my life and the relationships I have had have often been really painful, starting off with a lot of excitement and ending with a lot of pain. And I knew that I had to do something to change that cycle, because it was really affecting my confidence and my life.
The approach she took was very very powerful, very deep and very practical as well. It helps you really learn about the different aspects of yourself through parts work (Voice Dialogue)… I’m confident about not going into the same old patterns”
Laura Thompson, 55, London, UK (pseudonym used for privacy)
“I feel much clearer in my direction, and have been able to make a new start after feeling stuck. I feel very hopeful and am grateful. Nicola is non-judgemental and I found working with her easy, comforting and enjoyable, and I highly recommend her”
Kerry Goodfellow, 48, Bern, Switzerland
“Nicola really cares about her clients and she puts a lot of attention into the work she does. She gave me techniques and exercises that were practical, and easy to learn and apply…the coaching she gave me really worked, and has been transformational”
Elinor Martell, Buckinghamshire, UK